Hey Glow Diggers
These next 3–5 minutes are yours and yours alone. Breathe in deep… and let it all out. The noise, the expectations, the “shoulds.” Leave them at the door. This is your space to pause, reset, and maybe laugh at how ridiculously relatable life can be. Ready? Let’s hard-relate.
We all get the memo: be nice, be smaller, be on time to a timeline you didn’t design. Smile. Settle. Don’t be “too much.” Wear this, study that, marry here, have kids there, retire when the calendar allows. Cute… if your dream is to live someone else’s life.
Don’t Let the World Tell You What to Do (go ahead, clap after each word)
Because your glow isn’t up for public approval.
This space—Hey Glow Digger—exists for women who build on their own terms. If the world keeps handing you rules, here’s your reminder to hand them back. Your life isn’t a checklist; it’s a compass. Below are five truths to pin at the top of your mind every time the chorus of opinions gets obnoxiously LOUD.
1) We cannot have one timeline!
The culture loves deadlines for your milestones: career by 25, marriage by 30, home by 32, baby by 35. Reality check: there’s no expiry date on dreams and no prize for finishing first. Some bloom at 19, some at 49, some at 79. All valid. What matters isn’t when you start; it’s that you start (and that is IF you want to).
Your small step: List one thing “You” actually want this year (not what your group chat is doing). Choose a timeline that works for you. That’s your North Star.
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2) “Good girl” rules are made to be broken
There’s a script for women: don’t be loud, don’t take up space, don’t ruffle feathers. Meanwhile, the women you admire? And boy do they ruffle entire flocks!
You get to be soft and assertive. You can wear red lipstick to a Monday stand‑up, say “no” without a paragraph, choose solitude over noisy company, and change your mind without filing a public notice. Confidence isn’t a personality type; it’s a practice.
Your small step: Choose one tiny rebellion today—speak up in the meeting, raise your rates, wear the outfit, decline the plan. Then notice: the sky didn’t fall.
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3) Work, passion & purpose don’t have to look the same for everyone
There isn’t one “correct” career shape. 9‑to‑5? Powerful. Freelance? Equally powerful. Building a business, creating art, caretaking, sabbaticals, switching fields at 30 or 50—all LEGITi(mate). Success is how it feels from the inside, not how it photographs from the outside.
Measure what actually matters to you: learning, freedom, impact, money, time, joy. Then design around that.
Your small step: Write your personal KPI for the quarter. “Three deep‑work mornings a week,” or “Ship one portfolio piece per month.” Track that, not strangers’ applause.
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4) Taking care of yourself is not selfish
Rest, therapy, skincare, lifting heavy, saying “not today”—these aren’t luxuries. They’re maintenance for the machine that makes your entire life possible. The world might guilt you for boundaries because your (UN)boundaried self is convenient for them. Choose you anyway.
Your small step: add one non‑negotiable to your calendar this week (workout, walk, stretch, journaling, lights‑out time). Treat it like a meeting with your future self.
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5) The world adjusts when you own your glow
First, they’ll question you. Then, they’ll watch you. And then—like magic—they’ll adjust. People learn how to treat you by observing how you treat yourself. Define your standards, speak them out loud, and honor them in public.
Your small step: Write a two‑line boundary script and keep it handy: “That doesn’t work for me. Here’s what does.” Use it. Mean it.
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So this week, let us try to:
- Unfollow three accounts that drain us.
- Replace one “I should” with “I want to.”
- Do one thing on your terms (timing, outfit, pace, price).
- Tell one person your actual goal out loud.
- Celebrate a small win with something that feels luxe (a slow coffee, a solo date, a new playlist).
But HEY HEY, we aren’t following anybody’s rules, are we?? 😉
Own your glow. The world will catch up.
